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This is a thinkjoust very near to my heart, primarily because I hear complaints on this subject all the time, and by golly, I have opinions!
On one side, I do hear some guys say that they feel as though they lose some control or say in the relationship when a girl is the first person to initiate a conversation. However, I've heard many other guys say they wish initiation was more of a mutual process.
On the other side, very few girls take the initiative, as they believe most guys desire that role. However, this seems to be a cause of frustration for many girls, as the guys they're genuinely interested in rarely seem to take much notice in them.
I try to keep a damper on my opinions so as not to influence the vote, but I want to point something out about a statement I've oft heard girls are powerless to influence their own romantic lives.
That's BALDERDASH.
See, if a guy is interested in a girl, and then expresses that interest through conversation, compliments, or any other similar venue, then he can feel out if he wants to ask her on a date. But, girls can guide guys along in that process!
If a girl is interested in someone, she doesn't have to ask them on a date or anything like that, but she can at least draw her interest's attention by going up and initiating a conversation herself. If she puts herself at the forefront of the guy's mind, then he will be more likely by far to ask her on a date than he would be if the same girl only watched him from afar in a crowded room of people. I have heard it time and time again that guys are severely attracted to mutual interest, but if the girl never shows any, then how can he feel confident in proceeding?
Anyway, I've jabbered on enough. What do you think? Be sure to comment below, or add your voice to the poll in the upper right.
It's early in the vote, but I have got to respond to the lone girl, so far, who voted against women initiating romantic relationships. If by "initiating a romating relationship" you are interpreting that to mean a brazen pursuit of a man, or asking him on a date, I could chalk your position up to old-fashioned values and respect your position, even if I do not agree. But the author clearly states that is not what he is referring to. Instead, he, obviously a male frustrated by a lack of transparency among potential dating candidates in his life, is only suggesting a show of interest to help him and his fellows so that their own efforts at narrowing the field might be more fruitful. And, as It's early in the vote, but I have got to respond to the lone girl, so far, who voted against women initiating romantic relationships. If by "initiating a romating relationship" you are interpreting that to mean a brazen pursuit of a man, or asking him on a date, I could chalk your position up to old-fashioned values and respect your position, even if I do not agree. But the author clearly states that is not what he is referring to. Instead, he, obviously a male frustrated by a lack of transparency among potential dating candidates in his life, is only suggesting a show of interest to help him and his fellows narrow the field so that their own efforts at narrowing the field might be more fruitful. And, as a woman, you needn't be flagrant in your show of interest. Just initiate the same kind of conversation you might have with someone you think might make a good friend, of any gender or persuasion, because any relationship, romantic or otherwise, will be founded on friendship. So when you eye that attractive guy across the room, feel free to head in his direction and then strike up the usual ice-breaking conversation. "Where are you from? What are you studying/what do you do for a living? So, how do you know the host/hostess of this event?" You needn't even reveal your romantic interest. Striking up a conversation puts the ball in his court so that he can feel some confidence in pursuing the relationship further if the interest in mutual. And of course, the same counsel appllies to your male counterparts. For you kids at BYU, with such a cultural emphasis on marriage at a young age, probably every encounter with the opposite gender is loaded. It doesn't have to be. Instead of measuring every person against your dream Mr. or Mrs. Right, just make friends. Then, perhaps without you even realizing it, one of those friendships just may evolve into the romance you've been looking for.a woman, you needn't be flagrant in your show of interest. Just initiate the same kind of conversation you might have with someone you think might make a good friend, of any gender or persuasion, because any relationship, romantic or otherwise, will be founded on friendship. So when you eye that attractive guy across the room, feel free to head in his direction and then strike up the usual ice-breaking conversation. "Where are you from? What are you studying/what do you do for a living? So, how do you know the host/hostess of this event?" You needn't even reveal your romantic interest. Striking up a conversation puts the ball in his court so that he can feel some confidence in pursuing the relationship further if the interest in mutual. And of course, the same counsel appllies to your male counterparts. For you kids at BYU, with such a cultural emphasis on marriage at a young age, probably every encounter with the opposite gender is loaded. It doesn't have to be. Instead of measuring every person against your dream Mr. or Mrs. Right, just make friends. Then, perhaps without you even realizing it, one of those friendships just may evolve into the romance you've been looking for.
ReplyDeleteSorry! I am using my phone and only get to see a few lines at a time, so I had no idea I'd basically written my own blog post! I guess I, too, am pretty passionate about this subject!
ReplyDeleteHaha! I loved it! :)
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