Yes: 71.5%
No: 28.5%
I'm actually surprised by that! I thought I might be a music pariah. Also, nobody downloads music illegally? Either we're all honest people, or someone is being dishonest by claiming to be honest.
That was a doozy of a sentence.
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| Guy Coming to Pick Her Up vs. Guy Coming to Hang Out |
Way back in September, I released a Thinkjoust titled Can Girls Initiate Romantic Relationships? I received a lot of good feedback about the post, but some people expressed concerns about the way things were worded. Readers wanted to know What exactly do you mean by 'initiate?' and If a girl doesn't feel comfortable initiating romantic relationships, what else can she do?
So! After much thought, I rallied my dating models again and threw this bit of advice down.
Guys should ask girls on dates. Girls should ask guys to hang out.
- For Girls Who Don't Like Initiating Romantic Relationships
Guys are traditionally supposed to be the driving force behind dating relationships. So, let's assume you sit around and wait for a honey to come by and ask you on a date.
The date goes well. You think you actually like this guy. What should you do?
Ask him to hang out. Do homework together or something. That's a massive, major hint that will heavily suggest to him that he's got a shot with you. Odds are, if he was feeling the same way you were after the date, he won't balk at asking you out again.
- For Girls Who Don't Mind Initiating Romantic Relationships
You've been following my advice in the original Thinkjoust post, being friendly, initiating slightly flirty conversations with the guy you're into. However, he is so obtuse, he doesn't seem to get any of your hints. It's time to go big or go home.
Ask him to hang out!
Or, even better yet, what if you don't have very many opportunities to talk with your crush? If you are looking for something safe and casual to spark a conversation, ask him to hang out then, too!
- In Conclusion
Obviously, I'm not saying this is a guaranteed strategy for success, but it does foster a level of communication so lacking in today's dating world. I hope that clears up the questions people had about what I mean by initiating.
Add your voice to the poll! Comment below! Let me know what you're thinking!
I have never seen a problem with ladies asking guys out. Yes, traditionally guys are supposed to be the ones who instigate relationships, but society has advanced to a point where there isn't much of a distinction concerning who asks who out.
ReplyDeleteI had a crush on my wife for 11 years before I married her, and I was certainly the one who made the advances (or most of them at least), but I never felt like I was leading because it was my duty as a man. That's just how it happened, and it'll be different for everyone.
Good insight! Thanks, man! :)
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